The Fear Of Missing Out

FASHION, LIFESTYLE

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Hey guys, It’s been a while! there is a reason for that. I’ve been ill, yep! AGAIN. I thought I would talk about how I’ve been feeling lately because I know you lot like reading and relating to my lifestyle posts. It seems that I’m ill more than I am well lately and it’s getting me pretty down. It’s getting me down because I’m missing out on things. Things I enjoy doing the most. Remember that one kid who was always ill at school and had to be always taken out of lesson? Well yeah, I’m now kinda like that kid but in my 20s haha. Having a weakend immune system means I’m at home a lot and yes one of the advantages of blogging is that you can work and make money from home and that’s all fine and dandy until you’re home for too long. There’s only so much you can do.

Introvert is the new extrovert – Being successful in your job when you’re not good at speaking up

FASHION, LIFESTYLE

introvert: noun –a shy, reticent person.

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So last week I read an article in Glamour magazine which really hit home for me. It was all about introverts and how we are becoming more popular. I was always the quiet one at school who hated sitting in the dinner hall because it was too noisy and over crowded! I never really enjoyed big social events and found them really exhausting and I hated being put on the spot which was a common thing in school because teachers seem to like picking on the quiet ones… like if I wanted to give my opinion I would have put my hand up right? Most of the time I get my energy from being on my own and doing my own thing, Sometimes I like to go to a cafe for a brew on my own, which is now being accepted when it was once frowned upon with the whole ‘loner’ thing. I’ll hang out with friends when I feel like I want to, rather than force myself out into every social gathering there is. In social situations I like to sit and listen to the other person rather than have quick pointless chit-chat and there is something I kinda like about awkward silences, they make us human! 

“What is your personal style?”

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32219181733What is your personal style? A question I get asked a lot in interviews and a question I can never fully answer. When I think about this question, something comes to mind that I don’t actually have a personal style and to be honest I’ve never had one. Ever since I got into fashion I never wanted to dress the exact same as someone else, I never had a fixed style. Don’t get me wrong I’ve always had my style icons, Debbie Harry, Anna Karina, Alexa Chung etc.. but they’re just celebs that I look to for outfit inspo if I’m feeling uninspired. I would pick parts of Debbie Harry’s style but then I would also pick parts of somebody elses style and then put my own twist on it. I still do that today, but now I’m dressing more for me, rather than dressing to just look ‘cool’ or ‘ vintage’. I dress in clothes that flatter my figure and that make me look like the best ME. I know what doesn’t look good on me and what does, I think that’s the most important thing when it come to fashion. I’m a teeny 5’2 and a half (haha I had to add that half in) which means I know to wear skirts and dresses that come above the knee to elongate my legs. I can’t wear those dreamy bohemian maxi dresses because I literally look like I’m wearing a potato sack that is trailing along the floor collecting up dust. I don’t do too well with some cropped jeans because I feel they cut my legs off even more. However kick flares are a god send!! and booties above the ankle are an absolute no go for me! #cankle probs.

Accessorize ‘Eclectic Bloom’ Collection | Look 2

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HUMANS HAVE LAYERS!

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Ello again, so as I promised here is part 2 of my collaboration with Accessorize and this little camera bag is just the cutest thing ever! This bag is ready to take you into spring with its applique flowers and small compartments because all we need is our camera’s and a lipstick for lovely spring days right? The bag also comes in the colour cream and it definitely puts a key focus to any outfit. The bag comes with its original strap but I opted for the floral embroidered cream strap also from the Eclectic Bloom collection. It goes beautifully with the Navy bag and adds that extra detail. They also have a variety of super cute printed silk scarves that look great tied around the strap of the bag or just simply around the neck. SO, get yourself down to accessorize (or online) and purchase your bag of dreams OR even just to have a nosey and drool over the beautiful florals before they go, because I’m tellin ya they will!

Making the decision to become a pescetarian

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So, I’ve decided to become a pescetarian! purely because of 2 reasons! 1. I wanted to take on a new challenge and 2. Because I watched the video to The Smiths – Meat Is Murder and I never want to eat meat again. The way some of them treat animals is speechless. I had no words but only tears for those poor animals. I always had an idea what happened to those animals but I always shoved it to the back of my mind and never really thought about it when I was eating meat. I know pescetarian isn’t the same as vegetarian and I know fish are basically animals too but I’m not ready to take on the full vegetarian challenge just yet. Fish is one of the things that I eat quite a lot as it gives me the vitamins and omega 3 I need which I don’t get from my awful diet.

25 FACTS ABOUT ME

FASHION, LIFESTYLE

Hello stranger! I’m back. I’ve been super busy with other exciting things that I’ve not had much time to blog. Today’s post is all about you, getting to know me a little bit more. I’ve had my blog over a year now so I think it’s time to throw in some facts about me! I warn you, they’re not very exciting…

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1. My full name is Starr Shannon Clare. However, still to this day people call me ‘Clare’ and I’m not sure why haha. YES MY NAME IS STARR.

2. My birthday is the 25th of November and I was born in 1995 which makes me 21.

3. I was born and live in Manchester.

4. I was named after a girl vampire in the 80’s film ‘The Lost Boys’ (very cool film, you should watch it!)

5. My favourite colour to wear is red, it makes me feel sassy and confident. It’s such a girl power colour!

6. If you didn’t know this already I’m obsessed with cats, CATS RULE THE WORLD.

7. I have a pet cat named Flash.

8. I have 12 tattoos and regret almost every one of them apart from my cat ones lol.

9. I eat tuna out of the can and I love it! is that gross? (it basically makes me a cat anyway)

Living and growing up on a council estate

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“People never make it from council estates” WRONG. “People from council estates are scum of the earth” BULLSHIT. “They’re all on the dole and do nothing for themselves” YAWN. People tend to judge and make assumptions as soon as you mention you come from a council estate. A lot of you who read my blog or follow me on Instagram probably didn’t have a clue I come from a council estate because I don’t look like the stereotypical chavy girl wearing crop tops with track suit bottoms and my hair in a side pony (however, believe me I did go through this stage at one point growing up haha). I used to be so embarrassed to tell people where I come from when they asked because I instantly thought they would have thought less of me and yes I have had some people turn up their nose at me but that instantly made me think a lot less of them as a person. I don’t care anymore, I love where I come from, I’m not ashamed of it and it’s made me who I am today. REAL. I appreciate things more and I’ve always had a lot of empathy for others since being a small child. I know what it’s like to have no money and grow up in the shit and I know how that feels for others going through the same thing. We take care of our own. My estate may not be pretty, it definitely has that grey concrete look everywhere, dingy alley ways and some graffiti on walls but there is a part of me that will always love that. It’s my home.

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For those who always think we sit on our arse all day this is also not true. I’m going to tell you a little bit about my Dad, someone who is truly amazing and I don’t tell him this enough. My dad worked since he was 16 years old and had to give up his second job to look after 6 kids. When my Mum died, he basically became our Mum and Dad all in one. He washed, cooked, cleaned, fed us, took us to school on time every morning, picked us back up and over all just made sure we had everything we needed to help us get through a dark time. I developed a lot of anxiety at a young age which gradually got worse in my teens and still to this day I struggle with it now. Being at college and having anxiety basically got in the way of me getting a job, and I really needed a job. Anxiety literally takes any energy and motivation out of you and it would make me feel so shit when an ex would just call me ‘lazy’ clearly never understanding. I got my first job when I was 19 after going through another rough patch of complete heartbreak because I wanted to prove to myself that I could work even if it was a struggle for me. There are so many things I am proud of and achieved which I never thought I would. My anxiety is a lot more under control and I’m able to enjoy my life so much more, I got into uni! (possibly the first person on my estate to go to uni haha) and I am so so so proud of my blog. Something I wanted to start a verrrrrrrrry long time ago but obvs had too many anxieties about it. But here I am, with a forever growing following and people who actually love to read my blog. I have met so many lovely people who I can call my friends through this blog and I’m so happy I kicked my lil butt to start this little page.

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Can I just say, It’s not all that bad living on a council estate y’know. I don’t want you to have a picture in your head of me working in the coal mine haha. My fondest memory was going to Wales every year with the family, being beside the sea with candy floss and ice cream and going to the fun fair. I remember going on my first holiday abroad and thinking ‘this is just like Wales but for posh people’ LOL it was only Benidorm. I remember playing out on the estate with the other kids who just understood me, making up dance routines to the Spice Girls and waiting for my Nan to come round so I could show her whilst she drank a cup of Yorkshire tea and buying the girls weekly gossip mag just so I could have the free lip gloss that came with it. There was so much fun and the kids I played with I can still call my friends today. I may not see them a lot and we may be into completely different things but they are always there whenever I need them and that is true friendship.

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Coat – Primark (similar) | Glasses – Depop (similar) | Band Tee – Forever 21 | Denim Flares – Forever 21

Luckily my Dad has cool music taste so I didn’t grow up listening to chav rave music. I grew up listening to The Clash, Sex Pistols, Human League, David Bowie, Rolling Stones which are all my favourite bands still today. Growing up listening to that music was the reason why I also had an interest in fashion, I didn’t want to dress like everybody else I wanted to look different. I didn’t want to have a baby at the age of 16 and be stuck at home on the estate, I wanted to see what was out there in the real world. I wanted to go to gigs and festivals and meet other people who wanted to do the same thing. I do get some funny looks when walking around my estate now, they look at me as if I come from other planet, purely because I’m wearing something they would never dream of wearing. But I still NEVER feel intimidated walking past a gang of lads because deep down I’m still the same old lil Starr who once used to speak to those gangs of lads. It’s nice to see them sometimes and be greeted with “Alright Starr!” instead of an intimidated look. Some of them doing well with a job and car etc and some of them not doing so well but we all come from the same place and like I said, we take care of our own.

This post was a little bit more personal than the usual and I was a bit worried about sharing this with you but I just wanted to give you the idea that not everyone from a council estate is a piece of poo. Have faith in us! People expect nothing from us and this is why some of us end up staying in the same old place forever.

All ma love to ya,

Starr

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The effects of social media

FASHION, LIFESTYLE

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So, the other week I took a little break from social media as some of you may know. I did my best to try stay off Facebook,Twitter and Instagram and limited myself to just reading emails and the odd catch up on the bloggers group chat because those girls are the most supportive and wonderful gals ever, I salute you! I didn’t go full on cold turkey from social media but I definitely wasn’t on my phone for most of the day and I felt so much better for it. I somehow forgot there was a real world out there, I was constantly on my phone, not taking time to just sit down and enjoy a chat with my dad and I wasn’t putting my full concentration into anything. Soon as I woke up I would reach for my phone straight away and spend ages on it scrolling through Instagram and replying to comments. Being a blogger means you do need to be pretty much on the go with social media and posting regularly but I got a little too caught up in it all and started to feel very negative. I also found myself stressing and comparing myself to other bloggers a lot. I was questioning myself, why am I putting all my hard work into nothing and working for free? Why do I not have as many followers and engagement as this blogger when I’m working just as hard? Why does it feel like I’m getting nowhere? Why are all these other bloggers getting to do fun things and travel etc? These may seem like ridiculous questions to some but this was how I was feeling when I was spending too much time on Instagram comparing myself to other bloggers. Obviously, after my little social media break my brain was feeling refreshed and the reality is, is that everything is not how it seems on Instagram. No matter how many followers you have, how many times you go on holiday and all those pictures of us smiling and having fun, it’s not reality! Everything on Instagram is sugar-coated, no one has the perfect life, the perfect job or the perfect face, so next time you find yourself comparing, take a step back and realise it’s not all what it seems. We are all human.

Clarks Original Dessert Boots

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Ello! How are ya? I’m still hibernating from the cold, waiting for the summer…. PLS HURRY! These images were taken back in December by the lavely Lydia Maycock but I never really got round to sharing them with you (Translation: I completely forgot I had them and they were sitting in a dusty folder all alone). But hey ho, they are now out and open to the whole wild world. Back in October, some of you Instagramers may know I went to the AllSole Live event. To those who don’t know, AllSole is an online shop with a huge range of branded shoes from Dr Martens to Michael Kors. They held an event at Red Door in Manchester for Bloggers to explore some of their favourite shoes from the AW16 collection. The event all together was so much fun with lots of prosecco, live music, nibbles and goody bags involved. I know it was a while back but I’m thinking of doing a little throw back post on the event as I have some pictures I would love to share with ya!

Faux Fur Galore

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Hello you, hope you’re braving this cold weather! I hate the cold. It gives my skin and lips so much grief that I’m literally slapping moisturiser and lip balm on all day. I’m not enjoying photo shoots in this weather either, a Rudolf runny nose is not a good look and not being able to move my fingers is a pain in the backside too. Anyway, rant about the cold over… I’ve had a really good week this week! I’ve been really productive, got everything that I’ve been putting off for ages done and applied for uni. Yep, I’ve decided that I’m going back but to study a different course and this time I’m staying in my home town Manchester, BECAUSE IT’S THE BEST. Everything about Manchester I love! the people, the cafes, the music scene and even sometimes, just sometimes I love the weather. Manchester wouldn’t be Manchester without the rain and when the tiniest bit of sun comes out we really appreciate it by taking our tops off and wearing little dresses to soak up as much sun as we can before it disappears again.